50 Shades of Danger

My little brother became well-acquainted with the stove burners as soon as he was tall enough to reach them. “Don’t touch that Stephen! It’s hot, it will burn you!” I remember my mother calling that out to him as my cute-faced little brother stood on tippy-toes and reached toward the burner. She tried to cross the kitchen in time, but despite her desperate warning my little brother’s curiosity was too much for him. Burned flesh and high-pitched wails soon followed….as did a bowl full of ice water and time-out at the table.

I think this post is something like that….a warning to people I love to stay away from the fire before they get burned.

No doubt, you’ve heard about 50 Shades of Grey by now. The books have been around for some time, and now the movie is coming out this weekend. I’ve read in several places that this movie has already set a record for the most pre-sold tickets to an R-rated movie. Women are making it their Valentine’s date night….others are calling it a girl’s night out and heading out in large groups to see this “sensational” film.

I’m asking you to do the opposite. Run away from it. Don’t pursue it. Step away from the stove top. Because even though the movie can’t cause physical burns on your hands, the searing of your heart and mind is much more serious.

“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” -2 Timothy 2:22

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do no know God…….For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness.” -1 Thessalonians 4: 3-5,7

Sisters, I’m raising my voice and warning you to stay away from this movie. Don’t allow your heart and mind to be clouded with such filth. I’m tempted to take a light approach to this. After all, I just started this blog this week and I want it to grow. I don’t want to drive away new readers because I took “too harsh” of a stand against something. But I simply cannot sit by and not call this movie for what it is: sin against God, against your spouse, and against your own self.

To take a very different, non-theological approach, let me also say this: the popularity of this movie just baffles me. I get that our society as a whole is moving towards more and more depravity as time wears on, but a woman being dominated by a male in such an extreme physical, emotional and sexual manner? Isn’t that about 5,673,486 steps backwards in our feminine equality progress? What about all of our shouting and screaming against the “rape culture” in America? What about our desire to be treated fairly and equally and not like someone’s property? I just. don’t. understand. how American women can so vehemently protest a whiff of inequality, and yet embrace this movie like we have. If someone can explain it to me, I really would like to know. {Good luck.}

I’ll leave you with this: in my promise to be your keeper, I also promise to warn you when I see danger coming your way. No matter how socially unacceptable or awkward or difficult it may be, I will not sit idly by. I deeply hope that you would do the same for me.

Don’t allow the enemy to place such vile images in your mind. Don’t open your marriage up to that kind of attack. Don’t expect your husband to stay away from porn while you go see a pornographic movie. Don’t teach our daughters that this is socially acceptable. Don’t trade in your purity for a distorted view of passion.

Jump back from that burner, friend. It’s a lot hotter than you think it is. Sweet sweet sister, I sincerely pray that you would heed this warning. Heed it and then share it all over social media so we can get the word out. Let’s be our sister’s keeper today.

Some other great posts on this topic:

“Porn is a problem for men today in a way it never was before the internet. It was always a temptation, but it was never this widespread. This is going to escalate for women now, too. We’re the next target. And it’s an easy progression from erotica to full blown porn.” -Sheila, The Appeal of 50 Shades of Grey-and Why We Should Fight

“Mr. Darcy used to be the type of man girls swooned over. Now it’s Mr. Grey. Can the standard get any lower? Probably.”  “How close to the edge do we need to teeter before we jump away from our certain demise?” Michelle, Fifty Shades of Grey: Is Anyone Else Concerned?

“It is a complete lie that going to see the movie will help your marriage. And an even bigger lie is that it won’t affect you at all. Because it will. The things that you see cannot be unseen. The feelings that you experience from being entertained by those scenes cannot be unfelt. And if marriages aren’t under enough pressure already, going to watch pornography is only throwing gasoline on relationships experiencing fire from all directions.” -Becky, Christian Women and Christian Grey



  1. Jenna S Griffin

    I completely agree, Sarah! It really saddens me that so many woman and young girls even read and support this book and movie. It is harmful, and it will affect them sooner or later. What was really shocking was when a group of Christian women who I really admire, still to this day, were all reading this book and discussing it…at a church! (Not my church, but I was visiting theirs).

    • Sarah Casterline

      Gosh, that is shocking! And very very sad. It’s kind of scary to think that this book/movie was so popular among the Christian community. What’s the next step from here? I don’t think I want to know….

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